Dez and her same-sex partner chose their own path to getting pregnant — after carefully selecting a sperm donor through a personal connection, they successfully performed at-home insemination with sterile tools purchased on Amazon. The couple has been able to use the same donor for both of their children and maintain a relationship with him that feels just right.
Dez had two distinctively different births — during her first birth, it was decided to induce labor at 39 weeks. Her blood pressure plummeted after her first epidural and the staff gave her a second. When her contractions started, the staff prepped her for it to take awhile, but her labor from there was unbelievably fast!
Throughout her next pregnancy, she combated gestational diabetes and a complication during birth which led to a NICU stay for her son and the possibility of losing her own life.
Dez’s story may be unique but its themes are so common — reminding us that every journey into motherhood takes us to the edge of ourselves and also awakens love we never knew we had.
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In This Episode:
The alternative at-home options to fertility clinic procedures
How she fertilized her eggs with cost-friendly options
How she and her partner chose their known donor
How she was treated by hospital staff because she was plus-size
How therapy is helping her cope emotionally with almost losing her second child
How she changed her diet and still experienced gestational diabetes
How she cared for her child after his stay in NICU
How to get a free one-month trial of guided meditations through Expectful
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About Our Guest:
Dezirae loves living in Northern California, but will always be a Texan at heart. She grew up in the Dallas area and relocated to Roseville, California in 2011, where she has made a home with her partner Anna and two boys, Avery & Jackson. Dezirae works full time as a Project Controls Specialist for an engineering services firm, but her favorite job is being the mom of her two boys. She’s passionate about sharing her experiences with fertility and birth as a queer individual, and enjoys connecting with other moms in her community because she knows it can be a lonely world out there. She dreams of one day becoming a certified doula, and being able to participate in providing support to women throughout the birth/parent community.